… I cannot underline this enough. In an environment where there is no meaningful no, there can be no meaningful yes.
I could write endless words on this topic, but they would all boil down to that.
Give me the freedom to refuse consent without consequence, without begging, without manipulation, without pressuring until I give up … then I can say yes to you, give enthusiastic consent in whatever manner (verbal or non) we agree on.
Until then, it all means nothing.
Greg Gutfeld on Fox News’ The Five
Things I learned from this argument:
1. Only on Christmas does one receive food and presents
2. Christmas is not multicultural
3. Non-white people are invasive and scary
4. Christmas is the only legitimate holiday during the winter season, excluding Haunukah, Kwanzaa, Bodhi Day, Eid-al-Adha, and Winter Solstice.
5. Greg Gutfeld is an idiot.
Well, his dumb ass WAS on Fox News the news corp for dumbasses.
Thanks, Greg Gutfeld, for telling me my winter holiday season, which includes celebration of Christmas but is not limited to that, is boring. I thought I was having a fine time with the people I love and being respectful of those around me, but obviously you’re a better judge of the quality of my life than I.
[Sex addiction diagnosis advocates] are typically unable to put forth a healthy model of sexuality, and when they do, it is so transparently conservative and religiously driven that it’s frightening. Most of the leaders of the sex-addiction movement are themselves recovering supposed sex addicts and religious folks. That’s fine, it’s fine for them to be advocating, but what they’re advocating for is a moral system, not a medical one.” —
And DFCS came back in November 2008 for her fifth child, Debbi, just 14 days old.
“I begged them not to take my baby,” said Domitina Mendez, 24, “but the interpreter told me to calm down or it was going to be worse.”
Since then, the five children have been cared for by a foster family who wants to adopt them, even as the Mendezes try to regain custody.
A hearing to have their case reopened is set for Thursday in Whitfield County Juvenile Court after a June 2011 ruling that terminated their parental rights.
In her ruling, Judge Connie Blaylock said she didn’t believe the parents could care adequately for the five children with their complicated medical needs and the dozens of medical appointments they require every month.
But advocates working with the family believe their inability to speak English and their illegal status were the main factors that led to the rights termination.” —
yeah, you know what? I think this has less to do with them speaking spanish, and more to do with that big bolded part up there— US citizens want some children. And what better way to get some cheap home made kids without having to worry about birth family contact attempts or wait for years and years?
fuck this shit. fuck it all.
This is so fucked. They target women like this. Why are they taking her 14 day old child anyways, how you neglect your child in 14 days? Oh, they already deemed her unfit to reproduce on her own terms. And yea, I’m sure wanting to adopt families needs trump the mothers, all because of U.S. citizen status, language, and race if the adopting family is white. Whoever said those weren’t factors in the article are lying and enough evidence supports this all plays a huge effect in the judgement of these cases.
*lights torch* Fuck this shit…
Bullshit this is the CASE STUDY in bullshit
When you look at the majority of transsexual, transvestite, and transgendered people who are attacked, raped or murdered, being a prostitute and being part of that specific social and cultural context seems to be a common denominator. So realizing that almost all trans victims of violence are prostitutes, you have to start asking serious questions about societal attitudes towards prostitution. You have to investigate how much such attitudes might contribute to—or perhaps even constitute the main determinant in—making trans prostitutes targets for hatred and attacks. And you also have to consider, in addition to transpobia, other factors such as race and misogyny.
Not only are most of the trans people murdered sex workers but they are nearly 100 percent male-to-female. Violence against these people, while not solely due, in my opinion, to transphobia, is surely a “gendered” form of violence. And that very crucial aspect is completely erased when people frame the issue as one of “violence against transgender people.” This is not an issue of “violence against transgender people” but an issue of violence against transsexual women and against male-to-female transvestites who are mostly prostitutes. And if I were to be a real pain in the ass, I would further insist that we start identifying such things as class and cultural backgrounds, race, ethnicity, age at time of transition, age at time of murder, and sexual orientation of the slain TS women and MTFs, because that would reveal exactly who is and who isn’t targeted in those crimes. So the fact that MTFs are the ones who are almost exclusively attacked and killed is something that needs to be pointed out. For every Brandon Teena, there are a thousand TS/TV prostitutes who were raped, stabbed, shot, strangled, beaten to death, burned alive, without ever having a single book, documentary, or fiction film produced about them.” —
Mirha-Soleil Ross, “Interview with Mirha-Soleil Ross” in Viviane Namaste’s Sex Change, Social Change: Reflections on Identity, Institutions, and Imperialism. (via transfeminism
who are almost all brown women, btw, kthx
So apparently Jezebel freaked out because a sister in Germany named her thirteen pound baby Jihad?
WOW IF I BIRTHED A THIRTEEN POUND BABY it would sure as hell be named Jihad too omg.
And they said jihad is a holy war waged against non Muslims and that she was practically scarring her child.
Giving him a somewhat common Muslim male name. Scarring him.
Western feminism, this is why nobody can take you seriously, really. This. Is. Why.
I’ve found that where mental treatment is concerned, therapy holds some sort of moral superiority over drugs in many people’s eyes. I think many people still feel that mental disorders are spiritual illnesses, not medical ones, and that treating them with a pill is some sort of cop-out. (Imagine the public furor if researchers came up with a pill to, say, erase the feeling of guilt.)
This would explain why, though therapy is still stigmatized–after all, the Ideal Person works out these issues on his or her own–it is considerably less looked down upon than psychotropic medication. Our culture values struggle and hard work so much that even recovering from an illness should be mentally effortful.” —Antidepressants and Strength of Character « Brute Reason (via thisisnotpsychology)
He said, “I hate landing in a city and not knowing if anybody is meeting me.” the girl answered this question by saying that she didn’t know how she was getting from the airport to theh ouse where she was staying. Billy asked another question: “Friends can really let you down sometimes.” The young girl responded by explaining, “The people I’m staying with [thus, not family] are expecting me on a later flight.”
Billy said, “I love the independence of arriving in a city when nobody knows I’m coming.” This was the virtual opposite of what he’d said a moment before about hating to arrive and not be met. He added, “But you’re probably not that independent.” She quickly volunteered that she’d been traveling on her own since she was thirteen.”
“You sound like a woman I know from Europe, more like a woman than a teenager,” he said as he handed her his drink (scotch), which the flight attendant had just served him. “You sound like you play by your own rules.” I hoped she would decline to take the drink, and she did at first, but he persisted, “Come on, you can do whatever you want,” and she took a sip of his drink.
I looked over at Billy, looked at his muscular build, at the old tattoo showing on the top of his wrist, and at his cheap jewelry. I noted that he was drinking alcohol on this morning flight and had no carry-on bag. I looked at his new cowboy boots, new denim pants and lether jacket. I knew he’d recently been in jail. He responded to my knowing look assertively, “How you doin’ this morning, pal? Gettin’ out of Chicago?” I nodded.
As Billy got up to go to the bathroom, he put one more piece of bait in his trap: Leaning close to the girl, he gave a slow smile and said “Your eyes are awesome.”
In a period of just a few minutes, I had watched Billy use forced teaming (they both had nobody meeting them, he said), too many details (the headphones and the woman he knows from Europe), loan sharking (the drink offer), charm (the compliment about the girl’s eyes), and typecasting (“You’re probably not that independent”). I had also seen him discount the girl’s “no” when she declined the drink.
As Billy walked away down the aisle, I asked the girl if I could talk to her for a moment, and she hesitantly said yes. It speaks to the power of predatory strategies that she was glad to talk to Billy but a bit wary of the passenger (me) who asked permission to speak with her. “He is going to offer you a ride from the airport,” I told her, “and he’s not a good guy.”
I saw Billy again at baggage claim as he approached the girl. Though I couldn’t hear them, the conversation was apparent. She was shaking her head and saying no, and he wasn’t accepting it. She held firm, and he finally walked off with an angry gesture, not the “nice” guy he’d been up till then.
There was no movie on that flight, but Billy had let me watch a classic performance of an interview that by little more than the context (forty-year-old stranger and teenage girl alone) was high stakes.” —
Gavin de Becker, The Gift of Fear, p.67-69.
It’s been over a year, maybe two, since I read this book, and it’s not a perfect book, but this right here? What he says to her? Gavin de Becker, you are a good guy and you can come sit next to me.
I need to get this book & go through it to see what parts would be good with kid #1. He’s going to be out & about alone in the world & situational smarts are definitely something I want to be sure he has down cold.
If Jesus visited an American church next Sunday, people would accuse him of being a terrorist and call the cops to come strip-search him for explosives.
When they pulled the third victim from the river in as many days, they found a dog with him. Public health officials were wary of sparking a panic, but they were quietly worried. Not only did it seem that this new strain of drowning was contagious, but it had also demonstrated the potential to jump from species to species.
It’s hard not to notice that once the right number of white folks are affected, people want to take to the street. Unemployment numbers are high? We’ve had high unemployment for years. People are living in or near the poverty line? Yeah — we know.
When minorities speak up and say there is an issue, we are told maybe we are doing something wrong. Perhaps we are targeted by the police because of what we are wearing. Perhaps we don’t look for jobs the right way. Maybe we aren’t educated enough. But now that it’s affecting other folks, now there’s a problem. Now we need to come together and fight the power. Someone tweeted at me that we need to come together and not point out silly differences like race because we’re in this together!
Yes, we can — and have (there is support from various folks of color) — come together within this movement, but you can’t expect us to throw away “race” and ignore history. Even the violence that’s happening with the Occupiers right now is looked at differently because of race. You can’t be surprised that people have reservations about this when you look at how our issues have been dealt with before.
I’m not making an argument for ignoring the movement because a lot of the movement ignored us. But I am saying take a moment to walk away from your righteousness to understand that your newfound plight has been some people’s plight for generations.
We just didn’t have a catchy name for it.” — elon james white, Dear OWS: Welcome to Our World (via monkeyknifefight)